(Anti) Social Media

First of all Merry Christmas to anyone who reads this – I wish you a wonderful festive period with good food, peace, health and joy and hope that you can share it with the ones you love.

Christmas is a time of indulgence for many people out there and quite often followed by a fresh start in the new year with a selection of new years resolutions.
Some of the ever popular ones include giving up smoking or drinking, going on a diet or starting a new exercize regime.
A new years resolution is generally speaking an attempt to give up a bad habit of sorts. I have two bad habits that I would like to give up. The first one is everything relating to sugar and I have tried to give it up on numerous occasions without success.
The other one has only become an issue recently and I am pretty certain that I am not the only person out there suffering from it – social media overload…

Now, facebook, twitter and whatever else there is have become integral parts of social interaction these days and there is a lot of good to be said about social media.
However, since becoming a mother I have found myself spending more time on my phone – in particular on facefook that I care to admit …

During the past summer I have spent a lot of time in the garden with my children but since the weather has become less palatable we have been spending a lot of time indoors.
As I am a stay at home mother my interaction with adults is also somewhat limited…
So when all my immediate housework is done and I sit with my children to play I find myself picking up my phone and just quickly checking if anything interesting has popped up on facebook…
I flick through Interesting Upworthy posts while Mr Tumble is rambling on in the background…
I hang up the washing and just quickly check my emails before joining my kids in a game of Lego…
And it doesn’t stpp there … The kids are tucked into bed and I browse through Amazon or scroll through the news to wind down, while my husband engages in similar phone related activities for a good half hour, before we finally glance up and pay attention to each other…
I wake up in the morning, grab my phone to look at the time and get sidetracked by my notifications, which means I end up either ignoring my bladder for 5 minutes while I check the latest occurances or taking my phone to the toilet with me …

What started of as an interesting and exciting new technology a fewe years ago has become an invasion of personal interaction…

I don’t know if I am a particularly bad example but as I am sitting here putting all this down in writing I am feeling rather pathetic …

All of this really hit home yesterday when my daughter was playing with her toy phone on the sofa as I asked her to come to the kitchen for lunch. She kept staring at her toy and said “I wont be a minute Mummy I’m just reading something quickly”
You may find this endearing or funny but I was actually rather ashamed of myself…
Children mirror their parents behaviour, the way you go about your daily mundane activities – it all shapes and teaches them in countless ways each and every day.
A Parent is the ultimate rolemodel (bad or good) and no expression is more true than “they do as you do and not as you say” !

I have noticed that my little Girls behaviour has somewhat deteriorated since she has not been able to spend as much time outside and the ignorant and lazy voice in my head put it down to lack of excercize and fresh air…
And while that may be part of it, the more realistic and honest voice in me admits that it is much more likely to be a lack of parental attention…
When children act out of character, are misbehaving or overly emotional it is very often down to a lack of attention …

I am always around my children and if they need anything at all I am right there to respond to their needs – be it changing a nappy, retrieving a lost toy from behind the sofa or kissing better the latest bump.
But I have to admit that I look at my little palm sized screen a lot more than I should, and at their chubby cheeks and clever little fingers a lot less than I ought to …
Winry is a chatterbox if ever there was one and she literally never stops talking from the minute she wakes up to the minute she falls asleep…
It’s exhausting and I can’t help but tune out her babble every now and again but I realise now that she needs me to pay better attention to what might seem insignificant to me at the time so that I can help her make sense of the world around her and all of her overwhelming emotions.

It is never too late to change…
And in this case it is not too early either…
So I decided not to wait until new years day and deleted my facebook app on my phone this morning. This way I will be much less tempted to “just have a quick look” and end up getting stuck reading some article for the next 10 minutes …
I have thought about doing this a few times before but never actually went through with it… So this is a concious decision to limit my facebook activity to my computer during their naptime or in the evening.
I know this will have a positive affect on all of us and I am very much looking forward to spending christmas with my family and not with my phone 😉

RebeccaCraigWinrySameth-44

Until next time …

Ta da

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Seasons

Hello again…

I have been trying to upload a blog for what feels like an eternity now but we have had major internet issues … oh the worries of the modern world … anyway it seems to be fixed now so I am once again able to share my thoughts and images with those who are interested 😉 yay !!

So here goes …

As you know I keep insisting that my favourite season of all is autumn … It is and always has been – for all the reasons I have listed (and no doubt will continue to list) on numerous occasions…

Every season has its perks and downsides of course – but since moving out into the countryside and having a garden and fields right on our doorstep I have really come to appreciate summer – especially when the kids are concerned …

There is nothing better than a bit of dirt and fresh air to occupy the smalls and tire them out … 😉

I never really used to like summer in the past … it’s too hot and because of my size I have always rather prefered winter clothes that cover up as opposed to summer clothes that reveal – if you know what I mean … 😉

But especially in the last month , while we were plagued by a typical winter virus, and greyish wetness of the british winter, I have felt very sad that the summer is over … I have tremendously enjoyed the outdoors and am rather not looking forward to the cold, wet, grey, mudd and dark of the coming winter months which always seem to last forever and a day …

And so I felt the need to dig out some of my favourite pictures of the summer just to make myself feel a little bit warmer and brighter 😉

And of course I wanted to spread the love and share them with you …

That’s all for today really – Enjoy 😉

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Until next time …

Ta da